A Prayer of Gratitude for Marriage Equality

Fractio Panis - Image from the Catacomb of Priscilla

Fractio Panis from the Catacomb of Priscilla in Rome (Wikipedia)

Most generous God, since the earliest days of your Church, when your Son, our Savior, Jesus Christ, first invited us to the banquet feast of the gospel, we have – in our brokenness and sin – sought to exclude those whom we considered unworthy to share in the sacrificial gifts you have placed into our hands. Seated at the Council of Jerusalem, less than a score of years after the Ascension of the Lord, your own Apostles debated whether the uncircumcised were welcome at your table. Through the providence of your guidance, the gospel was opened to those whom the prescriptions of the Law had excluded.  Thank you, generous God, for welcoming us all to your table.

We ask your mercy, most holy God, for in the centuries since, we have proven intransigent in our unwillingness to remember the words of the Apostle James, that we should, “not make it difficult for the nations who are turning to God,” and instead we have continued to add “other burdens” born of our own provincialism, narcissism, and prejudices. Forgive us, merciful God, for the times when we have failed in your commission to share the good news of freedom for the oppressed. We failed because we feared that their freedom would somehow cost us the privileges we have come to enjoy, and it is only perfect love that can cast out that fear. Forgive us our failure to obey your command to love one another as you love us. Thank you, holy God, for your mercy.

God of all love, we give thanks to you, as we continue to move forward into an era in which the loving, committed unions of men and women of the same sex are recognized and celebrated in our sanctuaries and in our courthouses. We give thanks to you, God of all rejoicing, for we know that it is only in our love for one another that we know you and see your face.  May we hear the echoes of your laughter in our own cries of joy at the welcome of our brothers and sisters.  In celebrating love, may we come more fully into the knowledge of the love of Christ, which surpasses all understanding.  Thank you, joyful God, for your love.

Guide us, God of wisdom and compassion.  As the light of your extravagant generosity grows ever more bright in our world, may we not neglect those who remain in shadow. May we hear the voices of those who no longer feel welcome at your Celebration, whose cries of dissent have been silenced by the tide of inclusion. May we remember, in our fallibility and brokenness, that we too fall short of the glory of God, and even at our best we only glimpse the truth of your grace through a glass darkly. May we always include in your Church those with whom we disagree, our fellow sinners for whom your beloved Son gave his precious life. As we offer them welcome, may we also never cease to seek out the other sheep of your limitless flock, who – through our own failures in proclaiming the gospel – continue to believe themselves outside the scope of your grace. Thank you, God of wisdom and kindness, for the expansiveness of your grace.

In all things, may we celebrate that your mercy triumphs over our failed judgment.  For you have called us to act with justice, love kindness, and walk humbly before you.  When given the opportunity, may we choose welcome over rejection. May we choose mercy over moral superiority.  May we choose fellowship over ostracism.  Ultimately, may we choose love over everything, for you, our God, are love. Amen.

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  • Here is a version with biblical citations included:

    Most generous God, since the earliest days of your Church, when your Son, our Savior, Jesus Christ, first invited us to the banquet feast of the gospel, we have – in our brokenness and sin – sought to exclude those whom we considered unworthy to share in the sacrificial gifts you have placed into our hands. Seated at the Council of Jerusalem, less than a score of years after the Ascension of the Lord, your own Apostles debated whether the uncircumcised were welcome at your table [Acts 15:6-29]. Through the providence of your guidance, the gospel was opened to those whom the prescriptions of the Law had excluded. Thank you, generous God, for welcoming us all to your table.

    We ask your mercy, most holy God, for in the centuries since, we have proven intransigent in our unwillingness to remember the words of the Apostle James, that we should, “not trouble those from among the nations who are turning to God,” [Acts 15:19] and instead we have continued to add “greater burdens” [Acts 15:27] born of our own provincialism, narcissism, and prejudices. Forgive us, merciful God, for the times when we have failed in your commission to share the good news of freedom for the oppressed [Luke 4:18; Isaiah 61:]. We failed because we feared that their freedom would somehow cost us the privileges we have come to enjoy, and it is only perfect love that can cast out that fear [I John 4:18]. Forgive us our failure to obey your command to love one another as you love us [John 13:34]. Thank you, holy God, for your mercy.

    God of all love, we give thanks to you, as we continue to move forward into an era in which the loving, committed unions of men and women of the same sex [Galatians 3:28] are recognized and celebrated in our sanctuaries and in our courthouses. We give thanks to you, God of all rejoicing, for we know that it is only in our love for one another that we know you and see your face [I John 4:7-21]. May we hear the echoes of your laughter in our own cries of joy at the welcome of our brothers and sisters. In celebrating love, may we come more fully into the knowledge of the love of Christ, which surpasses all understanding [Ephesians 3:19]. Thank you, joyful God, for your love.

    Guide us, God of wisdom and compassion. As the light of your extravagant generosity grows ever more bright in our world, may we not neglect those who remain in shadow. May we hear the voices of those who no longer feel welcome at your Celebration, whose cries of dissent have been silenced by the tide of inclusion. May we remember, in our fallibility and brokenness, that we too fall short of the glory of God [Romans 3:23], and even at our best we only glimpse the truth of your grace through a glass darkly [I Corinthians 13:12]. May always include in your Church those with whom we disagree, our fellow sinners for whom your beloved Son gave his precious life [I Corinthians 8:11]. As we offer them welcome, may we also never cease to seek out the other sheep of your limitless flock [John 10:16], who – through our own failures in proclaiming the gospel – continue to believe themselves outside the scope of your grace. Thank you, God of wisdom and kindness, for the expansiveness of your grace.

    In all things, may we celebrate that your mercy triumphs over our failed judgment [James 2:13]. For you have called us to act with justice, love kindness, and walk humbly before you [Micah 6:8]. When given the opportunity, may we choose welcome over rejection [Mark 2:17; Luke 19:5-10]. May we choose mercy over moral superiority [Hosea 6:5; Matthew 9:13; 12:7]. May we choose fellowship over ostracism [Romans 14:10]. Ultimately, may we choose love over everything, for you, our God, are love [I John 4:8]. Amen.

  • For those of you among my clerical colleagues who wish to do so, feel free to incorporate this prayer into your worship services as you see fit, with my full blessing. The final line of each paragraph could be spoken responsively. The prayer could easily be integrated into a Eucharistic Prayer, or placed elsewhere in the Ordo as you see fit. For ease of reading, I have been somewhat less aggressive in my use of capital letters, but feel free to adapt that in whatever way is best-suited to normative usage within your tradition.